Have a New Husband by Friday – Dr Kevin Leman

“Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days”

Dr. Leman writes with humor and understanding as he explains to his female audience “How to Have a New Husband by Friday”. He is a Christian therapist, father of four daughters and married over 45 years. He shares this experience with his readers in a humorous yet informative manner.

Have a new husband by Friday?

Is that even possible?

Dr. Kevin Leman says it is…

The New York Times bestselling author and self-help guru shows even the most frustrated wife how she can have a new husband by Friday.

Leman reminds any wife that if what she’s doing to get better behavior out of her husband isn’t working now, it never will. So it’s time for a change. That means it’s time to change her own patterns of behavior.

Here’s how Leman suggests she handle it day to day:

• Monday: Secrets Revealed: Cracking the Male Code?Yes, you’re different species, but you can work together in harmony.
• Tuesday: Creatures from Another Planet . . . or Creatures of Habit? To understand men, you have to track ‘em to their den.
• Wednesday: Think about What You Want to Say, Then Divide It by Ten How to talk so your guy will really listen . . . and listen so your guy will really talk.
• Thursday: Think of Him as a Seal Waiting for a Three-Pound Fish Why making love to your man is a key to who he is and how satisfied he’ll be, and what’s in it for you.
• Friday: It Takes a Real Woman to Make a Man Feel like a Real Man How to open your man’s heart, revolutionize your love life, and turn him into the knight you’ve always dreamed of.

“While there are numerous marriage books to choose from, this book is different because it examines the childhood role models and learning patterns that affect us in adult marriages. Dr. Leman shares examples of a husband raised by an Overprotective Mother, No-Room-to-Fail Mama, Driven Mother and Disciplining Mother. The fresh look at your husband’s parental influence awakens a new awareness for your marriage.”
– amazon customer review

If you are looking for some insights to help improve your marriage relationship, then you might want to check this book out.

And before you go, here is a fun little video clip from The Skit Guys called I Love My Wife:

Enjoy!

God bless you and may your marriage abound with growing prosperity! 

Cheers,
Brenda

Christian Parenting – Stop Using Negative Verbal Attacks and Start Parenting with Words that Prosper!

Parenting With the Power to Help Our Children Prosper

Parenting with a healthy pattern of communication is possible.

Do you want to help your children prosper?

Just as the world around us has harmful elements, so do our homes; even our Christian homes.

As unfortunate as it is, we often hurt each other, especially our children, with our words.

Did you grow up with parents who used words as verbal attacks?

If you did, I’m sure you hoped you wouldn’t do the same with your children. But the truth is, you will probably repeat the pattern unless you purpose to take action and stop it.

Stop the Negative Communication Pattern of Parenting

Changing your parenting communication pattern from one that uses negative verbal attacks is possible. Developing healthy patterns of communication, which reflect the presence of Jesus Christ, is key!

I’m sure you would agree that the cruel, degrading, judgmental, hurtful words we use to communicate with our children must stop. It is like verbal poison that wounds and destroys our children emotionally. Our words are often negative attacks at a child’s behavior, intelligence, appearance, or value as a person.

Verbal attacks can be direct or indirect. The following statements are some common examples:

• You’re worthless and will never amount to anything.
• Don’t act so stupid. Can’t you do anything right?
• You are no good. Why can’t you be like your brother?

Just because we can’t see the inner damage that verbal attacks cause in our children, does not mean a negative impact still isn’t left lingering in them.

Parenting With Words That Prosper

How do we change a negative parenting communication pattern to one that is positive and helps develop our children into prosperous individuals?

Acknowledging the need to change is the first step. The next step is identifying abusive words we use. Then we need to begin exchanging the destructive, hurtful words with constructive, guiding, nurturing, and encouraging words.

James said the tongue is full of deadly poison and out of the same mouth proceeds blessing and cursing. (James 3:8-10) We need to lean on God’s help to keep our words, words of blessing and encouragement.

When our words are full of nurture and encouragement, our children know we are standing with them and not against them. Children need their parents to believe in their potential as they guide and discipline them.

Believe in your children. Help your children see themselves the way God sees them. Help them find their unique, gifted potential and you’ll also find they begin to respond in ways you desire. Once they discover you are standing with them, a healthier communication develops.

Yes. Our children try our patience, irritate us and sometimes humiliate us in ways we never thought possible. Problems, difficulties, disappointments, heartaches and failures are an unavoidable part of parenting. But we can choose to respond with words that heal instead of words that wound.

Bottom line: A parents words have power. We can make our children feel worthless or we can choose to learn how to parent with a healthy pattern of communication; one that helps them think as highly of themselves as God does, and helps them prosper.

May you parent your children with words of love and enjoy a family blessed with growing prosperity!

God bless you always,
Brenda

P.S. Feel free to share your comments…

Godly Dads Video – D. James Kennedy

Happy Father’s Day!

This video is based on a Father’s Day sermon by D. James Kennedy.

Dads are important and have one of the most important jobs in the world…
and unfortunately it has gone largely unnoticed.

Today we celebrate all fathers and pray that you are all godly dads!

Happy Father’s Day!

God bless you,
Brenda

Dad, If You Only Knew by Josh Weidmann

Dad, If You Only Knew: Eight Things Teens Want to Tell Their Fathers (but Don’t)

In honor of the upcoming Father’s Day, I was looking for a video to celebrate all dads out there.

In the process I ran across this video and book and decided to do a separate post. For anyone who had, or currently has a Father who is an active part of your life; you know how important your dad is. And for those who don’t, you also know the great struggle that loss can cause in life.

The book: “Dad, If You Only Knew: Eight Things Teens Want to Tell Their Fathers (but Don’t)” by Josh Weidmann and coauthored by his dad James Weidmann, sounds like an excellent resource for helping dads connect with their children.

Someone on Amazon commented that it is a great resource for both parents, and not just dads. The older I get, the more I also appreciate the positive influence of friends and family when it comes to raising children. Especially with so many single parent families. Raising healthy children is a job that requires utilizing all the help that is available.

Here is the description for the book “Dad, If You Only Knew”:

Listen Up, Dads! Your Teen Is Talking to You!

As exasperating as parenting can be during these volatile years, your teen is depending on you for steady faithfulness, love, and guidance. And because teens often find words elusive and expression difficult, they probably haven’t told you the things they wish you somehow automatically knew. So let Dad, If You Only Knew… be your guide. Josh Weidmann, just out of the teen years himself, joins his father, James, to help dads understand where their kids are coming from. It’s a messy world they live in, and meeting them in it is no simple task. But knowing these essentials now makes fatherhood eight times easier!

Welcome to Your Teen’s World

It doesn’t matter if you have the most picture-perfect, ideal-in-every-way teen or one who’s in full-swing rebellion. That teen you love is a “riddle wrapped in a mystery.” No father can know what his teen is really thinking.

That’s why youth communicator Josh Weidmann teamed with his father, Jim, to help you bridge the gap. In Dad, If You Only Knew…you’ll get an open, honest glimpse inside the teen mind. Josh’s extensive research, combined with pointed direction from a father’s heart, provide you with the practical guidance you need to establish a healthy, thriving father-teen relationship. It’s one you desire, your teen needs, and you both can’t afford to miss.

Story Behind the Book

“The resounding cry of teens for their fathers rings in my ear. I have been speaking to youth for five years and the greatest void I see in teens’ lives is the one left by their dad. I am only twenty-three years old myself, and to this day I can say that my dad is the most influential man in my life. Because of his impact, I have asked him share in this book. We have written this message in hopes of helping dads reengage in the vital father-teen relationship.”
– Josh Weidmann

God bless you -

Cheers,
Brenda

Happy Mother’s Day – We Love You Mom! Video

Celebrating Mom Today!

Happy Mother’s Day!

~ Celebrating all moms today and letting you know we love you and appreciate you from the bottom of our hearts. ~

Have a Blessed and Wonderful Day!

God bless you,
Brenda

Reclaim Your Relationship – How 3 Simple Words Can Change Everything!

A Workbook of Exercises and Techniques to Help You Reconnect with Your Partner

The three simple words “I Love You” can change everything!

I heard an interview on the radio a few days ago with Ronald T. Potter-Efron, author of “Reclaim Your Relationship.”

And with Valentine’s Day just around the corner…

I thought it appropriate subject to share my notes on the interview and book.

Below are some key notes:

• Any real relationship goes through periods of rocky down time and makes you wonder why you are with the person in the first place. But hang in there because things turn around – and you can become closer than ever before.
• There are simply times and stages in relationships when you’ll find yourself looking at your partner asking “what is wrong with them?”
• Learn to say “I Love You” even when you are unhappy or frustrated with your partner.
• It is not just about the words. “I Love You” should also be said with actions backing it up. It should come from the heart.
• Saying these 3 words is not always so easy for some people.
• Does it matter if your parents said it in your home growing up? Yes. It is easier for those that heard it and saw it in action growing up.
• “I Love You” needs to be followed by unselfish actions.
• Never follow “I Love You” with critical, fault finding about your partner.
• Self-centeredness puts a wall up in relationships by keeping things about “me, me, me” instead of about “us.”
• The cost of loving someone is the pain and heartache of losing them some day.
• Challenge the old, cold thoughts that keep you from saying “I Love You.” Sometimes it is from being hurt in past relationships.
• Love is demonstrated by loving behavior. A couple’s diary/journal can be a way to keep an ongoing communication for love and dealing with conflict.

Chapter 25 – Give Your Partner the Gift He or She Really Wants

It is worth the effort to learn your partners likes and dislikes. This shows your love by taking the time to discover their needs and not giving gifts based on what you think they want. Sometimes a hug is a better and more desired gift than an expensive present.

Chapter 33 – The 5 Steps that Let You Take in Love

Many people have a hard time taking in love and receiving it. They are able to give, but not receive. This can be caused by many reasons such as: not believing you’re loveable, trying to be humble by not receiving, or simply not knowing how to receive love.

These 5 steps were recommended to help you take in love:

1. Let yourself know the steps to receive love first.
2. Prepare to receive love and let yourself know it is good to receive.
3. When you are told “I Love You”, take a deep breath – stop – and repeat what they said.
4. Acknowledge the statement and feeling of being loved.
5. Accept that you are loved and loveable!

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From the BACK COVER of “Reclaim Your Relationship” by Ronald & Patricia Potter-Efron (also the authors of “Letting Go of Anger”) :

Say—and mean—the three little words that will save your relationship

“I love you” is probably the most important sentence in the English language: it can enrich your marriage on a good day and heal the worst wounds in bad times. But for many couples, saying and meaning it has fallen not only out of their vocabulary but also out of their marriage. Now, Ron and Pat Potter-Efron, marriage therapists who have been happily married for thirty-seven years, combine their real-life and clinical experience to help you improve your relationship.

“Reclaim Your Relationship” presents forty-six engaging, hands-on exercises to help you say “I love you” with ease and confidence while reaping the benefits of loving and being loved. Addressing the three types of people who have difficulty expressing their love—people who can’t get the words out, people who can’t show their love, and people who can’t receive love—this interactive workbook shows you how to:

• Practice saying, showing, and accepting love
• Re-energize your relationship with your partner
• Address the special needs of the person in your life
• Love and express love even if you lacked demonstrative affection as a child
• Overcome the hurt of a bad relationship and reclaim your faith in real love
• Save a relationship that has drifted

Add depth, richness, wonder, and beauty to the most important relationship in your life with the help of “Reclaim Your Relationship.”

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May you continue to have growing prosperity in your marriages!

Soar higher,
Brenda

P.S. If you’ve had a chance to read “Reclaim Your Relationship” (available on amazon), please feel free to share your comments – thanks!

While I’m Waiting by John Waller – Fireproof Movie Music Video

Wait on the Lord, even when times are painful. While you’re waiting, takes steps of obedience and continue to serve and worship the Lord.

Wait on the Lord and move ahead with boldness and confidence.

Marriage is not always easy and it takes a lot of work from both partners… And a successful marriage requires keeping God in the center of it!

God’s love has been shed abroad in my heart (Romans 5:5) therefore…

• I endure long, and I’m patient and kind; I’m never envious nor do I boil over with jealousy. I’m not boastful or vainglorious, and I do not display myself haughtily.
• I’m not conceited, arrogant or inflated with pride. I’m not rude or unmannerly, and I don’t act unbecomingly. I don’t insist on my own rights or my own way; I’m not self-seeking. I’m not touchy, fretful or resentful. I take no account of the evil done to me; I pay no attention to a suffered wrong.
• I don’t rejoice at injustice or unrighteousness, but I rejoice when right and truth prevail.
• I bear up under anything and everything that comes along. I’m ever ready to believe the best of every person. My hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and I endure everything without weakening.
• My love never fails or fades out. My love never becomes obsolete. My love never come to an end.

– 1 Corinthians 13 4-8

May God strengthen and prosper your marriage like never before!

God bless you,
Brenda

P.S. “Fireproof” Movie and “While I’m Waiting” Song  by John Waller on amazon

Sara Groves – “It’s Me” – New Music Video

Yes, Marriage Takes Work – But It Is Worth It!

Sara Groves’ new release “It’s Me” and commented about it on Tangle:

“Sometimes when Troy, my husband, and I are in the midst of a disagreement, one of us will say something that’s really sarcastic or just so overt. And being on the receiving end of that, it’s is like, “Honey, it’s me … Sara.” Or vice versa. We just forget who we’re talking to and the value of that person. For whatever reason, you cross that line where sensitivity and tenderness are discarded. You’d never talk to anyone else like that or treat someone else like that. Troy and I are working on that…” — Sara Groves

Healthy and satisfying marriages are what God intends and they are possible -
but they do take ongoing work along the way from each partner and -
require God’s help.

As someone who has been married and unfortunately divorced, I’ve been able to see marriage from different perspectives. Now as a single person, looking forward to marriage again, I realize the importance of each person not only going into the marriage committed – but staying committed.

A great marriage resource book I’ve been reading is “Love & Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It has a simple but really powerful message about the ‘LOVE She Most Desires’ and the ‘RESPECT He Desperately Needs’.

The message in the book is also followed up with specific things each partner can do and say. Actually, this message of Love & Respect goes beyond marriage relationships, but is guaranteed to help your marriage. I highly recommend it!

Taking the time to personally develop some new skills goes a long way in living a more satisfying life!

God bless you - and may He strengthen all marriages, and heal all those that have been hurt from divorce -

“God is my strength and power: and He makes my way perfect.”
– 2 Samuel 22:33

With God nothing is impossible!

Cheers,
Brenda

P.S. “Love & Respect” is available on Amazon and I see they also have “The Language of Love & Respect Workbook” by the same author.