marriage relationships

February 3, 2011 Videos No Comments

Romantically Challenged Video and Some Love Humor

The Romantically Challenged and Some Love Humor

Romantically Challenged Video by Skit Guys

First the Preview Video…

And Now the Romantically Challenged Video…

Men – do you feel romantically challenged?

Well you’re not alone, and the Skit Guys have put together a fun video taking a look at romantically challenged husbands.

Hang in there wives… remember, you married him for a reason. 🙂

“Husbands, love your wives,
even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it…
For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother,
and shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery;
but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular
so love his wife even as himself;
and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
— Ephesians 5:25, 30-33

“Above all, love each other deeply,
because love covers a multitude of sins.”
— 1 Peter 4:8

Enjoy these videos, some love humor, and your spouse!

Cheers,
Brenda

P.S. If you haven’t read this book yet, be sure to this year… it will bless your marriage!
Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
by Emerson Eggerichs

August 24, 2010 Marriage No Comments

Have a New Husband by Friday – Dr Kevin Leman

“Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days”

Dr. Leman writes with humor and understanding as he explains to his female audience “How to Have a New Husband by Friday”. He is a Christian therapist, father of four daughters and married over 45 years. He shares this experience with his readers in a humorous yet informative manner.

Have a new husband by Friday?

Is that even possible?

Dr. Kevin Leman says it is…

The New York Times bestselling author and self-help guru shows even the most frustrated wife how she can have a new husband by Friday.

Leman reminds any wife that if what she’s doing to get better behavior out of her husband isn’t working now, it never will. So it’s time for a change. That means it’s time to change her own patterns of behavior.

Here’s how Leman suggests she handle it day to day:

Monday: Secrets Revealed: Cracking the Male Code?Yes, you’re different species, but you can work together in harmony.
Tuesday: Creatures from Another Planet . . . or Creatures of Habit? To understand men, you have to track ’em to their den.
Wednesday: Think about What You Want to Say, Then Divide It by Ten How to talk so your guy will really listen . . . and listen so your guy will really talk.
Thursday: Think of Him as a Seal Waiting for a Three-Pound Fish Why making love to your man is a key to who he is and how satisfied he’ll be, and what’s in it for you.
Friday: It Takes a Real Woman to Make a Man Feel like a Real Man How to open your man’s heart, revolutionize your love life, and turn him into the knight you’ve always dreamed of.

“While there are numerous marriage books to choose from, this book is different because it examines the childhood role models and learning patterns that affect us in adult marriages. Dr. Leman shares examples of a husband raised by an Overprotective Mother, No-Room-to-Fail Mama, Driven Mother and Disciplining Mother. The fresh look at your husband’s parental influence awakens a new awareness for your marriage.”
— amazon customer review

If you are looking for some insights to help improve your marriage relationship, then you might want to check this book out.

God bless you and may your marriage abound with growing prosperity!

Cheers,
Brenda

July 17, 2010 Music No Comments

Dave Barnes – God Gave Me You Music Video

“God Gave Me You” by Dave Barnes

“…you stay here right beside me and watch as the storm blows through.
And I need you. God gave me you for the ups and downs.
God gave me you for the days of doubt. For when I think I’ve lost my way,
There are no words here left to say, it’s true – God Gave Me You!

There’s more here than what we’re seeing – a Divine Conspiracy!
That you an angel lovely, would somehow fall for me.
You’ll always be loved sweetheart and I’ll be the flattered fool…
And I need you. God Gave Me You…”

“Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.”
— Song of Solomon 8:7

This one goes out to all you love birds, newly weds, and long-time married folks…

Enjoy!

God bless you –

Cheers,
Brenda

P.S. The song “God Gave Me You” from the album “What We Want, What We Get” and other Dave Barnes Music can be downloaded on amazon.

February 12, 2010 Marriage No Comments

Reclaim Your Relationship – How 3 Simple Words Can Change Everything!

A Workbook of Exercises and Techniques to Help You Reconnect with Your Partner

The three simple words “I Love You” can change everything!

I heard an interview on the radio a few days ago with Ronald T. Potter-Efron, author of “Reclaim Your Relationship.”

And with Valentine’s Day just around the corner…

I thought it appropriate subject to share my notes on the interview and book.

Below are some key notes:

Any real relationship goes through periods of rocky down time and makes you wonder why you are with the person in the first place. But hang in there because things turn around – and you can become closer than ever before.
There are simply times and stages in relationships when you’ll find yourself looking at your partner asking “what is wrong with them?”
Learn to say “I Love You” even when you are unhappy or frustrated with your partner.
It is not just about the words. “I Love You” should also be said with actions backing it up. It should come from the heart.
Saying these 3 words is not always so easy for some people.
Does it matter if your parents said it in your home growing up? Yes. It is easier for those that heard it and saw it in action growing up.
“I Love You” needs to be followed by unselfish actions.
Never follow “I Love You” with critical, fault finding about your partner.
Self-centeredness puts a wall up in relationships by keeping things about “me, me, me” instead of about “us.”
The cost of loving someone is the pain and heartache of losing them some day.
Challenge the old, cold thoughts that keep you from saying “I Love You.” Sometimes it is from being hurt in past relationships.
Love is demonstrated by loving behavior. A couple’s diary/journal can be a way to keep an ongoing communication for love and dealing with conflict.

Chapter 25 – Give Your Partner the Gift He or She Really Wants

It is worth the effort to learn your partners likes and dislikes. This shows your love by taking the time to discover their needs and not giving gifts based on what you think they want. Sometimes a hug is a better and more desired gift than an expensive present.

Chapter 33 – The 5 Steps that Let You Take in Love

Many people have a hard time taking in love and receiving it. They are able to give, but not receive. This can be caused by many reasons such as: not believing you’re loveable, trying to be humble by not receiving, or simply not knowing how to receive love.

These 5 steps were recommended to help you take in love:

1. Let yourself know the steps to receive love first.
2. Prepare to receive love and let yourself know it is good to receive.
3. When you are told “I Love You”, take a deep breath – stop – and repeat what they said.
4. Acknowledge the statement and feeling of being loved.
5. Accept that you are loved and loveable!

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From the BACK COVER of “Reclaim Your Relationship” by Ronald & Patricia Potter-Efron (also the authors of “Letting Go of Anger”) :

Say—and mean—the three little words that will save your relationship

“I love you” is probably the most important sentence in the English language: it can enrich your marriage on a good day and heal the worst wounds in bad times. But for many couples, saying and meaning it has fallen not only out of their vocabulary but also out of their marriage. Now, Ron and Pat Potter-Efron, marriage therapists who have been happily married for thirty-seven years, combine their real-life and clinical experience to help you improve your relationship.

“Reclaim Your Relationship” presents forty-six engaging, hands-on exercises to help you say “I love you” with ease and confidence while reaping the benefits of loving and being loved. Addressing the three types of people who have difficulty expressing their love—people who can’t get the words out, people who can’t show their love, and people who can’t receive love—this interactive workbook shows you how to:

Practice saying, showing, and accepting love
Re-energize your relationship with your partner
Address the special needs of the person in your life
Love and express love even if you lacked demonstrative affection as a child
Overcome the hurt of a bad relationship and reclaim your faith in real love
Save a relationship that has drifted

Add depth, richness, wonder, and beauty to the most important relationship in your life with the help of “Reclaim Your Relationship.”

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May you continue to have growing prosperity in your marriages!

Soar higher,
Brenda

P.S. If you’ve had a chance to read “Reclaim Your Relationship” (available on amazon), please feel free to share your comments – thanks!

February 10, 2010 Marriage No Comments

While I’m Waiting by John Waller – Fireproof Movie Music Video

Wait on the Lord, even when times are painful. While you’re waiting, takes steps of obedience and continue to serve and worship the Lord.

Wait on the Lord and move ahead with boldness and confidence.

Marriage is not always easy and it takes a lot of work from both partners… And a successful marriage requires keeping God in the center of it!

God’s love has been shed abroad in my heart (Romans 5:5) therefore…

I endure long, and I’m patient and kind; I’m never envious nor do I boil over with jealousy. I’m not boastful or vainglorious, and I do not display myself haughtily.
I’m not conceited, arrogant or inflated with pride. I’m not rude or unmannerly, and I don’t act unbecomingly. I don’t insist on my own rights or my own way; I’m not self-seeking. I’m not touchy, fretful or resentful. I take no account of the evil done to me; I pay no attention to a suffered wrong.
I don’t rejoice at injustice or unrighteousness, but I rejoice when right and truth prevail.
I bear up under anything and everything that comes along. I’m ever ready to believe the best of every person. My hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and I endure everything without weakening.
My love never fails or fades out. My love never becomes obsolete. My love never come to an end.

— 1 Corinthians 13 4-8

May God strengthen and prosper your marriage like never before!

God bless you,
Brenda

P.S. “Fireproof” Movie and “While I’m Waiting” Song by John Waller on amazon

November 2, 2009 Marriage No Comments

Sara Groves – “It’s Me” – Music Video

Sara Groves – “It’s Me” – New Music Video

Yes, Marriage Takes Work – But It Is Worth It!

Sara Groves’ new release “It’s Me” and commented about it on Tangle:

“Sometimes when Troy, my husband, and I are in the midst of a disagreement, one of us will say something that’s really sarcastic or just so overt. And being on the receiving end of that, it’s is like, “Honey, it’s me … Sara.” Or vice versa. We just forget who we’re talking to and the value of that person. For whatever reason, you cross that line where sensitivity and tenderness are discarded. You’d never talk to anyone else like that or treat someone else like that. Troy and I are working on that…” — Sara Groves

Healthy and satisfying marriages are what God intends and they are possible –
but they do take ongoing work along the way from each partner and –
require God’s help.

As someone who has been married and unfortunately divorced, I’ve been able to see marriage from different perspectives. Now as a single person, looking forward to marriage again, I realize the importance of each person not only going into the marriage committed – but staying committed.

A great marriage resource book I’ve been reading is “Love & Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It has a simple but really powerful message about the ‘LOVE She Most Desires’ and the ‘RESPECT He Desperately Needs’.

The message in the book is also followed up with specific things each partner can do and say. Actually, this message of Love & Respect goes beyond marriage relationships, but is guaranteed to help your marriage. I highly recommend it!

Taking the time to personally develop some new skills goes a long way in living a more satisfying life!

God bless you – and may He strengthen all marriages, and heal all those that have been hurt from divorce –